Just wanted to update, since people still take the time to check on me (thank you, btw…)
Things are well. No more word from exMM’s wife. I mentioned in comments on the last post that I messaged her through FB to apologize (and also mentioned that I knew it was her that left the comment on my blog) and her FB page disappeared within hours.
Anyway – she doesn’t have anything to worry about. I don’t think about him much. In fact, days can go by now before something reminds me of him. I finally see him as a piece of shit. Not all MM are. But HE was/is. He used me for some fantasy sex life and never intended to do anything more with me. I read what some of you wrote about your affairs, and I can tell that they DID mean something to BOTH parties. Not mine. It was just me. All it meant to him was the chance to explore his sexual fantasies.
So, now, I can actually be THANKFUL that it is over. That I ended it by sending that letter. He would have tossed me aside in the blink of an eye without a care on his own. I see that now.
Thanks for checking in on me. You all are a big part of my healing.

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November 23, 2009 at 3:26 pm
ruby
So glad to read this post. I had been checking back periodically for an update, but it had been awhile. I’m really happy that things are going smoothly for you. And I’m on the very same page as far as realizing my MM was/is a liar and a coward. Moving forward definitely gets easier when you figure that out. I actually feel lucky that I dodged the bullet, and am not stuck with him like his wife is. Phew! Anyway, sending strength and happy thoughts your way!
November 24, 2009 at 2:23 am
Heartbroken OW
thanks for checking in on me, Ruby!!
It does help to be able to step back and see our exMMs that way… to realize that he WASN’T the man I thought he was.
And yes, his poor wife… I really do feel bad for her.
Sending strength and happy thoughts back your way!!!