I know that is what I am doing. But it is working for me right now: I’ve managed to go 2 full days without crying (HUGE!!!!) and without thinking of him constantly. And when I do think of him, I don’t feel like I’ve been punched in the gut (ok… I do, but it doesn’t feel like I’ve been sucker-punched and tackled and stomped on)
And it feels good.
I know it is only a matter of time before some of the excitement that I’m going through right now subsides, and my xMM creeps back to the forefront of my mind, however, I’ll take these moments of pseudo-normality for now.
This isn’t to say that I don’t think of him. I do. A lot. But I have a distraction that is helping to take the edge off of it.
That being said… when I stop and think about things, I’d definitely run back to him if he contacted me. That’s something I still can’t pretend I wouldn’t do.
So much for being strong…

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September 18, 2009 at 3:25 pm
michelle
I hope your distraction is still working….and keeps on working. I still cry everyday. Funny thing is I DON’T want to go back to him (well, there’s a part of me that always will, I expect)-So why do I still cry? I think it’s for the loss of the intense fantasy that is gone… and probably a once-in-a-lifetime deal. Sigh….
September 27, 2009 at 10:24 pm
misfitmistress
pretending will get you to the point you want to be. i know, ive been there. sending you lots of good thoughts!
September 29, 2009 at 6:04 pm
ruby
i’m with misfitmistress on this one. trust us. fake it until you make it!
October 14, 2009 at 1:54 am
contoveros
Other woman,
The strength comes within. You got it inside of you. You exercised it at the beginning of relationship and you can zero back in on it now.
Sounds to me you are almost back on your feet, or at least taking the first step (baby step?) in that direction.
I related to the post..
Michael J
October 14, 2009 at 4:56 pm
jadedalas
wow – I feel you GREATLY. I’m juuuuust starting to do the same thing. Fake it until I make it, too. Oi!
October 22, 2009 at 11:48 pm
tiger lily
wow- I had never linked to your blog before!!!! I didn’t have time to read it all but did read some. It gives me hope….. your journey seems similiar to mine. I’m right there with you faking it. somedays it works!!!!!! Somedays……. cheers!!!